Leven, Fife

When you become the truest version of yourself, embracing your talents and accepting your flaws, you’ll feel a sense of incommeasurable freedom.

You have been hiding for too long your truest essence. And you are already feeling exhausted, trying to keep up with this perfection mask you’ve put on.

You have good reasons behind, we all have. The fear of being rejected, the fear of being isolated if we’re not fitting in. What if I told you that all these ideas are misconceptions? What if your flaws could actually get you closer to the people you deserve in your life?

I’ve been talking for a while now about patterns, of how we repeat the same mistakes, hanging out with the wrong people for us, trying to change our future, but carrying with us a heavy baggage?

This idea is simple. You won’t get anywhere else if you don’t change the way of doing it. You can’t escape the burning desire of being your true self. This shadow will chase you everywhere you go. And you’ll end up where you were before, spinning in a vicious circle.

If you’re ready to transform your life, the way you feel, you better do some inner work. More you delay it, harder to bear will become.

Here are the 5 steps for self realisation I followed in my spiritual journey.

1. Willingness

I always knew is something more out there, but I was frightened of what I could find. The fear of unknowing was paralyzing, but I made a commitment to myself that at least, I will try. You can’t achieve anything if you are not willing to commit. First step is the hardest, what follows, comes easily.

2. Remembering

As this path is not the most common path people would like to take, you may find it difficult to explain yourself to others. You will be misjudged, excluded and seen as a joke. I had to remember to be there for myself, to recall the worst memories I had and to remember I always found a way to move on. You are stronger than you think you are. And you will always find a way.

3. Healing the inner child

Your inner child is not more than a sort of programme on a computer. Scientists say that the first years of your life are incremental in your evolution as an adult. If you had an unhappy childhood, if you felt undervalued, not loved enough, bullied, aggressed or abandoned, these programmes will run on the background of your mind. You’ll never feel being enough in your job, relationships and you will tend to play small.

4. Facing your shadow self

I reckon, this was the hardest step for me. Underneath your persona (the person you like to be seen as) many shadows of you are laying. The same as how your inner child can screw your life, your shadows, if not embraced, will keep you stuck. You may be forgetful, clumsy, or you may not be as good as others in some areas, but trust me, every single person has a talent that is unique. You don’t have to sing like Madonna, or be a Picasso, but you, you have something that makes you unique. Some like to call it blueprint. And this is hidden in your shadow. Be willing to accept your darkness if you want to shine your light.

5. Rest& enjoy

Allow yourself to take a pause. There is no competition. Doesn’t matter if you become your greatest version in your 20s or in your 80s.
No one gets a higher prise. You are here to enjoy life, to accept and to love yourself. To grow, to shine and everybody else will rise with you. More you practice, more balanced you become. More you fail, more you’ll be learning. There is no way of growing without experiencing the contrast of failing.